We stand by three tenets: play must be Safe, Sane, and Consensual. While the kinky community has always embraced pushing the sexual envelope, we draw the line at consent. “Rape” is a socially and politically charged word that automatically evokes something ugly and violent - as it should. Many forms of role play involve overpowering someone or being overpowered, but as soon as you add the word “rape” to any label, it pushes the descriptor into uncomfortable territory, and in the case of “rape fantasy,” intentionally so. We know the positive effects that playing has on children, but few cultures have spaces for adults to do the same. There can be a therapeutic aspect to adult pretend games, if only because they remove you from your daily headspace and allow you to be imaginative. While I’m certainly not one such pup, I think that reveals something important about role play itself. Puppy play is implicitly, if not explicitly, a sex role play, but some pups and handlers have removed the sex aspect of it and turned puppy play into a practice more akin to yoga - a de-stressing activity that frees them from the daily rigor of life. And while this is certainly not always the case, handlers are typically tops and pups bottoms (alpha pups being a common exception - see number 11). A good pup loves getting scratches, treats (sexual or otherwise), and led around on a leash by a handler. Pups are automatically submissive to handlers. There is an inherent power dynamic in puppy play, and many pups would say there is a Dominant/submissive relationship. We do this by wearing collars, barking at/sniffing guys on the dance floor, and sitting/kneeling whenever our handlers/boyfriends say, “Sit.” Some pups - myself included - love the pup headspace and extend it past the bedroom into daily life. Like all forms of role play, puppy play is as simple or complex as you make it. It falls under a broader category of role play types called “pet play.” In pet play, humans act stereotypically like different animals before and during sex. Like many scenes in the world of kink, puppy play at its simplest is a form of role play. Pretend you don’t know each other, and when the time is right, make that classic, subtle head nod - “Let’s get out of here.”
If your fantasy is to anonymously pick up a stranger and take him back home, this is easier: just plan to meet somewhere (the gym, a bookstore) and watch him from across the room. If you want to play in public, plan to meet up somewhere that you are fairly certain will offer some privacy. One solution to all these is to do anonymous role play with someone you know. The risk of sexually transmitted infections is a factor - although, to be sure, someone who says they love you poses the same risk unless they’ve been rigorously tested. Many formerly cruisey places are more heavily watched now, and your success rate is inevitably lower.Īlso, some guys have some discomfort with completely anonymous sex.
Our mediated, digitalized hookup culture has all but replaced discreet staring contests in the gym and public cruising in parks and bathrooms. Use your imagination!Īnonymous public hookups are rapidly becoming a thing of the past. Try these 39 role play scenarios for the adventurous gay couple. The most iconic gay role play scenarios have been done and redone endlessly by gay porn companies because they work - “Daddy and Son” will never get old - but that does not mean you can’t try them out for yourself. You could do sofa role play and have someone sit on you. And it is not limited to two adults - group role play offers some of the hottest sex experiences imaginable.Įverything in the world can inspire role play. At its simplest, role play happens when two adults consensually engage in an eroticized pretend game, a shared sex fantasy. Role play can be spontaneous or pre-planned, and as elaborate as you make it. Specifically, this is “puppy play” - a form of role play I love the most. He pulled out his dick and said, “Here boy.” I was on all fours, shaking my ass on the sofa in his direction. “Where are you going, puppy?” I was being bad. When I knew he was awake, I licked him - a long, sloppy, wet lick up his cheek - then ran to the living room. I started sniffing his neck until a sleepy grin formed on his face. My boyfriend at the time was sleeping on the bed.